The pressures placed on dogs today are unprecedented, largely due to their increasing humanization. While we often liken our relationships with them to those we have with our children, the reality is quite different. Unlike our children, we expect our dogs to be our emotional support when we come home. Expectations for dogs have grown exponentially.
In my work with clients, many of whom struggle with various mental health issues, I've noticed a rise in these challenges, particularly post-COVID-19. Dogs, with their simplicity and ability to live in the moment, offer us a unique kind of companionship. They love us unconditionally, regardless of our appearance, tone of voice, or financial status, making their relationships with us refreshingly uncomplicated.
In my recent post, I discuss how our tendency to complicate dog communication can lead to serious consequences. For instance, I've encountered cases where breeds known for their gentleness, like Golden Retrievers and Labradoodles, exhibit aggression due to misunderstanding and mishandling.
In a recent training case involving a young cattle dog, I observed a complex dynamic between the male owner and the dog. Initially unaware of the owner's background, I noticed inconsistencies in his behavior during training sessions. It became apparent that the dog had unintentionally become his emotional support, which was affecting her physically and emotionally.
Upon learning of the owner's past trauma and ongoing mental health issues, I adjusted my approach to emphasize the impact of emotional dumping on dogs. This experience underscored how our dogs can absorb and reflect our emotional states, potentially leading to anxiety and behavioral issues.
The lesson here is clear: dogs thrive when we provide clear boundaries and consistent, respectful communication. By addressing our own emotional needs and ensuring our dogs are not burdened with them, we can create healthier and more fulfilling relationships with our pets. This approach not only benefits the dogs directly involved but also promotes a more compassionate understanding of canine behavior and welfare in general.
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